Dating an officer in military
His first wife, the Army, kept him incredibly busy, and the distance between us didn’t help either.
So do we…Loyalty is one of the most important character traits of a man in the military.
Just trying to put his behavior and personality in context. It is hard to give you advice without knowing either of you but these are things you should discuss with him. Their public persona is the most important thing often in the absence of a private persona. But there is a depth of insecurity there too, that I just haven't seen before in previous boyfriends.
I dated an Air Force officer, full of bravado and cocky, but in a genuine way- he was confident, competent, and very skilled at his job. And it makes no sense because he has everything going for him!
He's an officer so he's not your typical dumb meathead blue collar guy out of high school or something - went to an excellent university for undergrad, comes from money, very smart and funny and intelligent. Sometimes he's sweet and gallant, other times he's a jerk. It is hard to give you advice without knowing either of you but these are things you should discuss with him. He definitely has a track record of being faithful (I know some of his friends) and he was raised strictly and I can definitely see him being strict with kids.
He doesn't really seem to have any feelings, or maybe he's just ridiculously thick-skinned and is programmed not to have feelings. I dated an Air Force officer, full of bravado and cocky, but in a genuine way- he was confident, competent, and very skilled at his job. Love his patriotism and his brains and his masculinity.He's also the cockiest guy I've ever dated and it's such a headache. They tend to be faithful to their wives, hard on their children -not very flexible or sensitive. By your post I am guessing you are basing your write up on one guy you knew from high school, and a lot of Top Gun, perhaps a little Major Dad thrown in for good measure. They are confident, action oriented, patriotic and decisive. Yes, he had trouble with deeper emotions and basically had a bad joke for most things. A little turned off by his inability to be sensitive, his sometimes boorish and un-PC jokes, and the fact that his cockiness seems like a mask for some kind of deep insecurity.